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Losing Autonomy
Some thoughts from Andy Partington’s “Hope In Addiction” compiled by David Vraza MA LPCC . The popular culture uses the word addiction...
David Vraza, MA LPCC
Mar 25, 20241 min read


Lack of Satisfying Relationships is Good Soil for Problematic Sexual Behaviors
Some thoughts from Andy Partington’s “Hope In Addiction” compiled by David Vraza MA LPCC . People stuck in sexually compulsive...
David Vraza, MA LPCC
Feb 26, 20241 min read


Co-dependency
Some thoughts from Gerald May’s “Addiction & Grace” compiled by David Vraza MA LPCC . I’m continuing to explore May’s thesis that...
David Vraza, MA LPCC
Jan 26, 20241 min read


Alternatives to Quitting — A Cycle of Brief Success and Relapse
Some thoughts from Gerald May’s “Addiction & Grace” compiled by David Vraza MA LPCC . I’m continuing to explore May’s thesis that...
David Vraza, MA LPCC
Jan 19, 20241 min read


Alternatives to Quitting — Giving Up
Some thoughts from Gerald May’s “Addiction & Grace” compiled by David Vraza MA LPCC . I’m continuing to explore May’s thesis that...
David Vraza, MA LPCC
Jan 12, 20241 min read


Alternatives to Quitting — Delaying Tactics
Some thoughts from Gerald May’s “Addiction & Grace” compiled by David Vraza MA LPCC . I’m spending a couple of weeks examining May’s...
David Vraza, MA LPCC
Jan 5, 20241 min read


Alternatives to Quitting — Rationalization
Some thoughts from Gerald May’s “Addiction & Grace” compiled by David Vraza MA LPCC . Last week I shared some of May’s thoughts on denial...
David Vraza, MA LPCC
Dec 29, 20231 min read


Self-Deception
Some thoughts from Gerald May’s “Addiction & Grace” compiled by David Vraza MA LPCC . Self-deception lies at the heart of addiction....
David Vraza, MA LPCC
Dec 22, 20231 min read


5 Markers of Addiction
Some thoughts from Gerald May’s “Addiction & Grace” compiled by David Vraza MA LPCC . May defines addiction as any compulsive, habitual...
David Vraza, MA LPCC
Dec 15, 20231 min read


Rewiring the Brain with Porn
Some thoughts from Gary Wilson’s “Your Brain On Porn” compiled by David Vraza MA LPCC . Like Pavlov’s dog, repeatedly pairing a stimulus...
David Vraza, MA LPCC
Oct 6, 20231 min read


Neurons that Fire Together Wire Together
Some thoughts from Gary Wilson’s “Your Brain On Porn” compiled by David Vraza MA LPCC . Wilson quotes the famous phrase, “neurons that...
David Vraza, MA LPCC
Sep 29, 20231 min read


WHEN TICKLING IS NOT OKAY
Thoughts compiled by Stefanie Hofman MA, LMFT Tickling is often used as part of behaviors known as grooming performed by sexual...
Stefanie Hofman MA, LMFT
Sep 22, 20232 min read


“Yes, I am Always Available to You”
Some thoughts from Steve Arterburn, Fred Stoeker, and Mike Yorkey’s “Every Man’s Battle” compiled by David Vraza MA LPCC . Many...
David Vraza, MA LPCC
Sep 16, 20231 min read


Why Does My Mind Turn so Easily to Sexual Thoughts?
Some thoughts from Steve Arterburn, Fred Stoeker, and Mike Yorkey’s “Every Man’s Battle” compiled by David Vraza MA LPCC . Men living in...
David Vraza, MA LPCC
Sep 9, 20231 min read


I Feel Awkward Around My Daughter
Some thoughts from Archibald Hart’s “The Sexual Man” compiled by David Vraza MA LPCC . How much is porn-driven guilt depriving fathers of...
David Vraza, MA LPCC
Sep 2, 20231 min read


What is Normal?
Some thoughts from Archibald Hart’s “The Sexual Man” compiled by David Vraza MA LPCC . What is normal? What is dysfunctional? What is...
David Vraza, MA LPCC
Aug 26, 20231 min read


The Habit of Hiding
Some thoughts from Mark Laaser’s “Faithful & True” compiled by David Vraza MA LPCC . Regular (and secret) pornography use and...
David Vraza, MA LPCC
Aug 19, 20231 min read


Does My Sexual Sin Invalidate My Faith?
Some thoughts from Samuel L. Perry’s “Addicted to Lust” compiled by David Vraza MA LPCC . Perry outlines the basic religious argument — a...
David Vraza, MA LPCC
Aug 11, 20231 min read


Is Sexual Sin Supremely Corrupting?
Some thoughts from Samuel L. Perry’s “Addicted to Lust” compiled by David Vraza MA LPCC . Perry is concerned about the tendency of...
David Vraza, MA LPCC
Aug 4, 20231 min read


Moral Incongruence
Some thoughts from Samuel L. Perry’s “Addicted to Lust” compiled by David Vraza MA LPCC . Perry writes “about the curious relationship...
David Vraza, MA LPCC
Jul 28, 20232 min read
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